Empowering Men in Divorce: AI Legalese Decoder Helps Navigate Unfair Financial Demands from Separated Wives
- May 25, 2024
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## Separation Dilemma: Financial Responsibilities and Custody Arrangements
My wife and I have been separated (not legally) for over 8 months now, and during this time, the children have been staying with me for 5 days out of the week. Occasionally, she picks them up for 2 days, sometimes just for one. However, she still expects me to contribute money towards the children’s clothing and expenses when they are with her. Moreover, I am also buying clothing for the children while they are with me, making me question the necessity of providing additional financial support for clothing when they are not with me. Currently, there is no formal custody agreement in place for the children, adding to the uncertainty and complexity of the situation.
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Document everything. Keep a planner and all of your receipts. This will require you to be organized and I’d only respond by text or the parenting app. These will be important when you go to court. Good luck
In 8 months, how many new clothes does a kid need? And if you have them the majority of the time, and they have plenty of clothes while they’re with you, there’s no reason for you to be giving her money.
Consult with a divorce attorney. Even if you are not ready to pull that final trigger they can advise you on to to act to protect yourself in the future.
> What are some options that I have?
You can give her money, or not. This is not really a legal issue.
You’ve received good answers to your question already, but you need to start the divorce. Without a custody order in place she could just take the kids on her weekend and move across the country and there is absolutely nothing you could do about it because there is no custody order. If you already know you aren’t getting back together the time to file is as soon as possible. It sounds like you’re both being reasonable right now but would you rather trust that will always be the case or have an enforceable court order.
Like others have stated, time to get the ball rolling on a divorce. Not sure about her education, but I would consider 8 months a reasonable amount of time for her to secure work, and support herself. With that, it would also be reasonable for her to bear any expenses for the children during her time. I personally don’t agree that one parent should be responsible 100% financially when parents separate, courts don’t always see it that way.
NAL – go to court and establish custody asap. Any money paid towards “child support” doesn’t count since it’s not going through court.
Get an attorney, take her to court, get a custody and financial arrangement. Sounds like she should be paying you.
Get legally divorced and set terms.
Get divorced and get the court to mandate the custody and child support.
Don’t give cash. Buy clothes and send them over.
8 months with no legal agreement in place, duh….FILE already. You have them 75%, she gets nothing… if anything, she should be paying you support
Get custody now. File now. File now again. Get yer ass to the court and file for custody. Do it now! First one to do will take precedent. Get yer ass down to the court. Don’t need a lawyer and they will give you the forms when you ask. Do it before you stbx does. Do it before she does again. Then you can give her nothing once you have a court order in your favor. I cannot emphasize this enough, but do it now. Before she does.
From my experience, you and your wife are both responsible for the needs of the children. You haven’t filed any legal paperwork yet so no “division” or assignment of payments to be made have been established. Basically, yer on the hook for the kids until you LEGALLY divorce. PLEASE SIR….. SAVE EVERY RECEIPT… all of them. All the food, clothing , necessities, toiletries….. whatever you purchase for those kids. Have receipts. It will make a world of difference when the day comes to legally divorce. It’s goes to prove your worth as a provider…. Should your wife decide to start “fudging” facts In court. Which they almost always do.
She has no legal standing to use to force you to give her money. Yes, you are married still, but there is nothing there about funding her life. If she feels the kids need something tell her you will take care of it when you get the kids back. If she wants to take the kids out that is on her to fund, not you.
NAL.
But you’re still legally married. There is no “your” or “her” money.
You need to be documenting everything. You need to be documenting the days the kids are with you what you spend on them when they’re with you what you spend on them when they then leave your home.
You need to maintain receipts you need to maintain logs you need to step up your game and get ready for divorce. You need to know who their doctors are and you definitely know what their birthdays are what medical conditions they may have what medicines they’re taking you need to know every facet about your kid’s life.
Firstly, let me say: OP, please consult a lawyer. Every single dollar you have is a marital asset until you make that filing, and none of the money you pay counts as child or spousal support until the court says it does. To protect your finances, you need an actual divorce.
Secondly, a lot of divorced dads on here are giving you spiteful advice, rather than helpful advice.
Comments like “tell her to go to Good Will” or “Salvation Army” are forgetting the people in those clothes are YOUR CHILDREN.
Denying them their needs to spite their mother is not going to end well for you in any way, shape, or form.
Kids need clothes, food, shelter. Most parents also like to provide other things, but hey, that’s your choice.
But don’t let anyone convince you that giving the mother of your child funds for essentials is being taken advantage of.
Take her to court. You need to establish child support and visitation. And since you are having the kids 5 days a week, she’ll be the one that have to paid not you.
She needs to get a job and cover her end. You’re already doing your part. Don’t enable deadbeats to just sit around
Document what you give her if you choose to, limit it and document why so you remember. If you give and give and potentially give a lot, you may create a “standard of living” that her attorney will fight for or a judge may order you to maintain…. You having the kids the majority of the time keeps you within the right to say no, or better yet, let her spend first (credit, whatever) and then provide you receipts before you decide to reimburse.
Don’t give her money. Each parent is responsible for their own stuff for the kids.
Get a custody agreement!!!
You are the primary care giver you buy the clothes the child support she should be paying you should cover part of the expenses.
Get all this covered in you separation agreement.
Stick to the agreement anytime there is a gray area it’s always used to manipulate don’t give a inch stick to the agreement
Supply gift cards for child specific clothing stores. No Walmart, old navy, etc.
Children consignment shop is good!
You’ll have receipts that you bought a gift card, and they can’t be used anywhere else
If you make more than her, and spend more money than her on your children then it’s possible that she is afraid your children will lean further towards preferring you over her as your split moves forward.
If she’s a good mom, and can be trusted to spend the money on the children, it may be worth it for the two of you to maturely coordinate and make sure the kids experience the same lifestyle regardless of which house they are staying at.
Do you know how else she can get money to buy clothes for the children? By having a job. Those are very handy for buying clothes for children.
Ask your ex for a list of clothes that the kids need, then take them shopping yourself.
If you give her money for children’s clothes, ask her to produce a receipt for everything she buys them.
Document everything and get custody asap.
Take your kiddos clothes shopping and give her a copy of the receipts. If that’s really why she wants the money, she’ll be fine with it.
Don’t give her money. If they need clothes that bad go clothes shopping. If you do give her money don’t give cash. And get the papers going because at this point neither of you have custody until it’s on paper. This means she can decide to keep the kids majority of the time and you can’t do anything about it.
You already take the kids shopping and you buy the clothes for them.
Maybe reimburse kid costs if she has receipts. Wire the money to her acct to track & have a record. This way you know where the money truly was used.
Why do the children need two sets of clothes? Particularly if they’re only with her two days per week, or less. Can they not just pack a small bag?
You need to go to court and ultimately a judge will help sort it out. This could get really ugly otherwise and the kids will be in the middle
If there is no custody arrangement as of now you don’t owe her one cent
My man spent so long paying child support he didn’t actually have to pay
Until there is something formal in writing you owe her nothing
She needs to also provide financially. Period
On top of the good advice you’ve already received, there’s an app called “Timestamp Camera Free.”
It records GPS, time, date, etc., with every picture or video, and stamps it on the photo. Use it to snap random pictures with the kids throughout the day to prove they were with you at that time, date, and place.
A friend used it to prove when the kids were with him. 3 pictures a day, morning, noon, and bedtime. Selfies when they weren’t home at those times.
Document, document, document, she’s probably what’s or needs the money for herself.
If you have them 75% of the time, I dont see why she would need clothes for them for the 2 days she has them. If she wants to go out with them, suggest to her going places that are free. ( heads up, she’ll get pissed). She should pay for whatever special trip or activities she does with them on her time.
Do everything over text and email and print it out. Save your receipts.
If you want to see if it really is for clothes then just buy some clothing instead of giving her money. It doesn’t need to be name brand either. Test that theory out. She should be paying you child support if she has them once or twice a week.
I think it’s time to legally divorce and figure out the custody situation.
…laugh in her face and begin processing for legal separation and custody. She’ll find she owes YOU child support.
This is usually an unpopular opinion, but living your life with the intention of fighting in court isn’t good for anyone’s mental health. If you want to give her money, do it. If you don’t, don’t. But never make things difficult or uncomfortable for your kids. It is better for them to have agreeable parents. Clothes are easy to come by. You can always get more. If she really is disorganized and thoughtless, she isn’t taking you to court. Just be cool and chill, let things settle where they may. Every communication isn’t a potential exhibit if you are respectful. That’s a toxic way to live.
ETA: your kids will remember who is taking inventory of their socks and t-shirts and who says “it’s just socks and t-shirts. I got you.”
Don’t give her anything without a court order , with you at 75% it borders her giving you money
Tell her to shop at the Salvation Army. Years ago, that’s where I shopped for myself and the kids(barring underwear and shoes). The kids never knew the difference.